Why Do I Feel Sad For No Reason?
One of the most Googled questions is “Why do I feel sad for no reason?”.
Feeling sad for no reason can be really frustrating and confusing. You might think that everything seems fine, so why do I feel sad?
Success is not always equal to happiness, and sadness might not have an obvious cause.
We need to identify why I feel sad for no reason.
Let us assume that you have accomplished a perfect career goal, and you are hungry and haven’t eaten for the last 6 to 7 hours. You experience headaches which result in frustration and anger. Not getting food to eat at that moment is not a big issue because we know that eventually you will have something to eat in a short while or once you get back home.
Here, one of the physical needs, that is hunger, is not getting fulfilled. Now your body will start getting into a panic state where you might think what would happen if you don’t get food at all. This is because our brain has evolved in a way that whenever the primary needs do not get fulfilled, it will start entering into a panic state.
If one of your physical needs do not get fulfilled, at that time body enters a panic state which results in anger and frustration. The same is applicable to our emotional needs.
Now assume that you have accomplished a perfect career goal, but you don’t have anyone to share your feelings. Although, this might seem a very minor thing but it will create an internal frustration. Thereon you might feel sad. It is very important to identify which of the physical and emotional needs are not getting fulfilled.
9 emotional and physical needs
- Security
It is one of the basic emotional needs that helps us to identify the area where we feel secure. For example, at your home, you feel secure because you know that the doors are locked and nobody can come inside. The same goes for your emotional needs. You might feel secure by sharing your feelings with your parents, siblings, partner, friends, or relatives.
2. Attention
Every person is seeking attention in their life in one way or the other. It can be through money, power, fame, lust, etc. You need to find out where your attention falls. This will help you to channel in a better way.
3. Control
What do we want to have control of? Some things will be in our control while others will not. If we keep on focusing on things that are beyond our control, we will tend to be frustrated. Once you identify the things within your control, you will be more synced or at peace.
4. Meaning and purpose
We need to identify what are the core values that I need to build our life on. What core values drive me? Even though you might be doing several things in your life, but without meaning and purpose, nothing will satisfy you.
5. Privacy
How much you have kept your life secrets from others? However, we need to share things at one point of time because we all are social animals and we can’t survive in isolation. Here, we need to identify the extent. It should neither be more or less.
6. Community
We all are trying to survive in our community. We must either adjust or fit in to survive in the community. The more I go against the community norms the more I will feel stressed. We also need to identify the right community for us.
7. Intimacy
Here, it doesn’t only mean physical intimacy but rather emotional intimacy. Emotional intimacy means when you can talk in-depth with someone. You can talk about your emotions as you might have developed an unbreakable bond.
8. Status
Every individual is trying to create a status in one thing or the other. For example, you might be trying to attain the position of CEO of your company, create a perfect toned body, etc.
9. Achievement
There will be a few things that will improve your life while the others will not. For example, if you are driven by kindness and not by money, and you have been running after more and more money. In that case, you will not feel joy in your life. On the other hand, if you are earning a good amount and also doing social service regularly, you will feel happy because your core value is kindness, which makes you feel achieved something.
It is important for us to identify all of these 9 needs, but it is not possible for us to fulfill all nine needs every time.
An emotionally intelligent person is not the one who understands others, but the one who understands himself or herself. The extent to which you understand yourself is the same as of you understand others.
The way you are, the same you try to find in others as well.
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